Even just searching the internet for information on how to get a boyfriend might feel embarrassing, but when you read the advice below you will soon see that you are not alone!
For some, it seems difficult to get a boyfriend. Maybe you have come to a point where you want to get a boyfriend but all the best guys seem to be taken. If you read on, you will learn why some girls (who might not even be attractive) are so clever when it comes to making guys like them, they always seem to be chased by guys and never get heartbroken. These women live by a few important rules when they want to get a boyfriend, you might not believe this but looks have nothing to do with why those women attract men so much easier!
The rules to get a boyfriend are incredibly simple and are hardly rules at all, just a slight lifestyle change is needed:
Smile.
Men and women like it when someone smiles at them. Especially if it is a girl smiling at a guy or vice versa. Most guys instantly think the girl is flirting. When a girl smiles at a guy, even if that guy does not say anything or respond in any way, he still feels better that a girl bothered to smile at him. If you direct a smile towards a man you like, he will get a non-verbal but meaningful signal that you're pleasant and easy to approach. You could think of the smile as your "first move" to get a boyfriend. If you have never spoken to this guy before, he will be forced to notice you and will at some point say "Hello" if you keep your eye contact and smile whilst you are looking.
Be easy to approach.
This is important if the guy is used to having girls approaching him. It is vital that you are somehow different, because you will stand out more then and have a far better chance to get a boyfriend. Don't do anything in the beginning but lock eyes, smile and turn your attention somewhere else, or keep walking. Be strict with yourself and knowledgeable enough to see that if you "give in" to your physical attraction and chase the guy before he has spent any time at all with you, then you might lose out!
Talk to him.
He cannot know how great you are unless you have awoken his curiosity. It is not wise to chat about every single last thing about yourself, because you'll then have a guy on your hands that has nothing left to be curious about! As a woman, you have a bigger "language center" in your brain than a man and therefore you already have an advantage when it comes to what to talk about. A man's usage of language is simple and to the point, which is why they can become worked up when women "read" into their words to search for other meanings, but this is what women do by nature, whether they are trying to get a boyfriend or just make light conversation. Instead of frustrating the guy with your superior language skills, use them to create an air of mystery about yourself, by being careful about what info you give him so that he must ask you questions and wonder about you. Be tricky in a way that he will want to spend time working out. This doesn't mean you have to pretend to be more deep or interesting than you are, but it does mean that you have to have hobbies, goals, and opinions you can talk about in an interesting way.
Reveal little things about yourself while telling a story.
Let's assume you do acting or play a musical instrument. Instead of telling the guy this straight away when you have only just met, you could say for example: "On the way to practice the other day, I saw this girl that... etc etc" and if the guy is really listening, he will be anxious to ask you "What kind of practice?". You can then just hold back information about yourself until he ends up having to ask for it and then, he starts to get taken in by his own curiosity. Maybe this is what people hundreds of years ago called witchcraft - back then they could not understand how some women seemed to get a boyfriend so easily, maybe they thought these women were somehow able to cast a spell on the man! Then again, maybe there were no witches at all but just women that knew how to play this game.
If things seem to be going nowhere, try a very slight but playful rejection.
It might seem wrong to reject a guy you like, but if you have ever been chased by a guy you have no interest in, then you are wise to the effect of rejection.
Make him feel important.
Guys search for status to fulfil their ego and as a female, a male viewpoint of your status is important to how much he values you, because in a round about way, it is a mirror image of his own status. Good use of rejection raises your status in a guys eyes, because it is a fact in psychology that when anyone gets rejected or denied something, the source of the rejection appears "better" and therefore, more desirable.
Don't criticise him too harshly.
The knack of doing this is to make funny but critical statements, without being too harmful. One of the main things you can do to to help you get a boyfriend is to make him laugh with your almost harsh comments and put downs, so then he will view you as not only easy going, but someone he has to work to impress.
If he makes a joke you don't like, don't laugh at him, tell him it was a bad joke.
If he says something you don't care for, just say "I don't care" but make sure it is done in a way that will scare him just a little. Never be scared of being honest about your likes and dislikes. It helps to boost his vision of you as an interesting person with good morals. He could even be "testing you" to see what he can get away with!
Allow time for a break.
It is true that "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and when you tell the guy that you can't see him during a certain period because you have to see your other friends, then you not only keep your other friends close to you, but you also let him know in a toned down way that your time is important to you and this will ignite an urge in him to work out how and when he can get close to you again! Give him all the time he wants to daydream about you, because you are indeed a dream girl.
Just be yourself.
Think about this - if you never act like your normal self, how else could you know if he likes you or not? If you are trying to get a boyfriend by acting differently to how you normally would, you will feel uneasy any time you are with him and that is the last thing you want. You are probably reading this right now because of feeling like that in the past and not knowing why, or how to get a boyfriend. If you are not comfortable around him, it would certainly be quite hard to talk to him and if you can't talk to him it will be hard to keep a long lasting relationship.
Try to laugh alot.
Don't laugh so much that he gets wound up by you, but if he can see your less serious side, he might realize this and think you have uncovered your real self. This is one of the best bits of advice here if you have not yet embarked upon a relationship yet but you intend to get a boyfriend.
Show him you care.
You always have to convey the impression that you are interested in what he is saying and doing, but if you are not interested, be straight about it. Some girls worry about this when they are trying to get a boyfriend, but it is not even worth the worry.
Always be yourself every step of the way.
If he falls in love with someone who is not "the real you" then the illusion will be shattered and he won't be interested in you in the same way. Be proud of your own personal flaws and oddities because people respect people that are not scared to be themselves, even if they act a little funny sometimes, it shows that you are not worried and strong, which is always attractive.
Never use anything that is actually pysically sexual as a way to get a guy to "like you"...
...because it never works. He will take the sexual event and possibly move on to another girl, unless you have inspired him to want what's in your heart first. Hold out on sex for a while when you get a boyfriend, until you are certain it will really mean something to him and not just be sex. The longer you leave this (within reason) the more the guy will see you as the sort of girl he might want to settle down with one day, leave it too long and he might think you were never interested in him, it depends on a lot of things like whether or not you want to have a longer lasting relationship as opposed to just fooling around with a guy.
Looks are not the be all and end all.
The most hunky guy isn't always going to be the most pleasant guy, but if you follow all of the guidance outlined here, then you can have even the best looking guys chasing you and get a boyfriend like it was a walk in the park. It is really easy to get a boyfriend if you do it the right way.
You never need to feel like there is pressure on you to start a serious relationship.
No matter who the guy is. If you feel intimidated or pressured to do things you do not want to do, just end the relationship, yes, end it - no one has the right to make you feel that way.
Don't make small talk about other girls to him, guys don't like that.
It is unlikely you could get a boyfriend this way, he will only get bored and even possibly annoyed that you are doing this, to him it will seem like you are only doing it to make yourself look better, but it is no use when he knows this. Guys are not stupid, alright, they are not
always stupid.
Remember, all guys are different.
In your quest to get a boyfriend, choose a guy that you think has an easy going personality and can genuinely make you happy. It is normally the unassuming, timid, nerdy guys who make the best boyfriends, not the aggressive bodybuilder types we all assume would be, because those nerdy guys don't have much luck with girls, therefore they will actually value the one girl that did give them a chance! Think about it! Believe it or not, you are more likely to fall in love with a guy like that anyway than a macho type guy with a silly looking fake suntan and over sized muscles from all the steroids he takes. Yes, most girls seem to like the macho type guys for some reason, if you talk to them though, most of them are only interested in boosting their ego and using you to do that. At least with all those guys being "spoken for" pretty much constantly, you have more time to focus on the more genuine guys that don't need a mirror in their pocket everywhere they go. These are the real guys who are almost certainly looking for a girl like you themselves, but are never getting asked out by them. It becomes almost a tragedy in itself when you like a guy and the guy likes you but NEITHER of you knows this and you both do not even realize it!
When you tell a guy you like him, remember to be positive!
He might be totally into you, or he might not. You could ask any guy in the world if he would like a girl to smile and say hello to him, not one single guy would say no to that. You can find out if he likes you, not by his words, but by his actions. If he has always been trying to get close to you... he likes you! I that case you have no worries if you are trying to get a boyfriend, but if he ignores you, or does not phone you when he says he will, or he is not affectionate in the way he acts or talks with you, then he is probably not that into you, even if he is polite on the whole and thinks you are a pleasant girl. It is not impossible to be fond of someone as a person and at the same time, not have any sort of sexual attraction to them.
Don't do anything you might regret further down the road.
Looking to get a boyfriend just because you feel insecure, for example you want to show off walking down the street with a hunky guy just because you want to be seen with him, this is a bad idea and you wil only end up breaking his heart if he really liked you and found out you were only with him to make other girls jealous.
Don't be unhappy if your relationship doesn't work out.
There are millions more nice guys out there. You cannot allow one guy to ruin your life. If he is trying to change you, end the relationship with him. He doesn't love "you" if he is trying to change you.
